Sugar daddies and sugar babies

So last night the hubby and I were watching the Barrett-Jackson car auction on the Speed Channel. (Yea, yea..New Year's Eve...so we didn't really do the New Year's Eve thing.) and an ad came on for sugardaddyforme.com (also called whosyoursugardaddy.com). Here's the set up. Young, hot women look for rich older men to "spoil and pamper" them. Older, rich men look for young hot women to "mentor, pamper, and spoil." The philosophy is that "it's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as it is with a poor man."

My first thought on this whole concept was, "are you freaking kidding me? Why not just call it 'imaprettywhore.com'?" Well, I thought that was a bit harsh, so I decided to visit the site to learn how this is different from prostitution. Let's look at some information from the site.

Here are the "top 10 reasons to join sugardaddyforme.com"

1 - Sugardaddyforme.com is a website for men who love to spoil and pamper their woman and for women who love to be spoiled and pampered and to treat their man like a King in return. - Ah, that's so sweet.

2 - There are many other online dating sites for people who want a "serious" relationship with a long term commitment. But there are many people today who just don't want to get so "serious" at the moment for many different reasons. They want a more casual, mutually pleasing and mutually beneficial relationship and Sugardaddyforme.com is the perfect site for those people. - Okay, it's tough to argue with that. Isn't that what dating is all about? Well, isn't it? I don't really know. I haven't dated for a long time and I was never good at it anyway. We'll just say this is what dating is about.

3 - A man doesn't have to be rich to spoil and pamper a woman. The women on sugardaddyforme.com really appreciate a man who will treat them like a Queen and they would love to treat him like a King in return. - Hmmm...they start to lose me here. That does appear to be contrary to the "it's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man..." philosophy.

4 - There are many women who are tired of dating pretty boys with no money who they often have to support and who always seem to end up hurting them or cheating on them in the long run. They are ready and eager to find a more mature man who knows how to treat a woman right and who can be a mentor and benefactor and help guide her to a more successful life in many ways. Like the old saying goes, "It's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor man!" And sugardaddyforme.com is the website where that dream can become a reality. - Hahahaha. Okay, this one really pushes it. First of all, I really wonder how many of the young, hot women who use this site have actually supported a guy. Second, we can change a few nouns here to read, "There are many men who are tired of dating pretty girls with no money who they often have to support and who always seem to end up hurting them or cheating on them in the long run. They are ready and eager to find a more mature woman who knows how to treat a man right and who doesn't need his money." But maybe that's a different site.

5 - There are many men who never got any attention or appreciation from attractive women when they were younger but now thanks to sugardaddyforme.com they are meeting the kind of sexy, responsive women they could only dream about before. They are meeting women who admire and appreciate them for their accomplishments, for the positions of power, for what they have achieved, for their brains and creativity and there is nothing wrong with that. They are finding very satisfying, honest, mutually pleasing and mutually beneficial relationships that are like a fantasy come true with the kind of women that they could only have dreamed about before. - This is the "attractive women weren't interested in me when I was poor, but now that I have money..." Dating someone for money....uh, sounds like prostitution to me.

6 - Each partner in a sugardaddy relationship tries to please the other as much as they can and make them happy in whatever ways they are able to. If the man is more advanced financially in his career and if he can help the woman and make her life easier and better what's wrong with that? Isn't that the way it is in many marriages, the man goes to work and takes care of his woman financially and she takes care of him in all the ways she is able to? Well, sugardaddyforme.com is the site for people who think that is the way it should be between a man and a woman ...but they don't think you should have to get married to enjoy a relationship like that! - Hahahaha...yea, it's that way in some marriages. That's why men end up paying spousal support and women end up struggling when their husbands leave them for 25 year old aerobic instructors. And in what ways are these sugarbaby women taking care of their men? Are they doing housework, cooking, raising kids? I'd bet the answer is no. So what we really have is a relationship where the man gives the woman money and the woman "takes care of" the man. How is this different from prostitution?

7 - The members of sugardaddyforme.com say that their sugardaddy relationships give them all the best parts of a relationship but none of the bad parts. They get companionship, affection, fun, excitement and pleasure in the relationships they have found on sugardaddyforme.com with no jealousy, no drama and no heartaches! And that's exactly why men go to prostitutes.

8 - A sugardaddy relationship is a win-win relationship of mutual spoiling and pampering. Each partner tries to please the other in whatever ways they are capable of more and more all the time because they know that the more they please the other person the more they will be pleased and appreciated in return. It's the way all relationships are supposed to be but almost never are. Hahaha, yea, yea, whatever.

9 - In a "serious" long term committed relationship often each partner is holding back, not wanting to love the other one more than they love them back and not wanting to give more than the other gives to them. A "serious" relationship, by its nature, creates a dynamic that causes each partner to hold back their love and affection. But a sugardaddy relationship, by it's nature, creates a dynamic that causes each partner to try to please the other more and more all the time because it is understood and accepted in a sugardaddy relationship that the more you please and pamper your partner more you will be pleased and pampered in return. See comment to number 8.

10 - Contrary to popular misconceptions about sugardaddy relationships, they are some of the sweetest, fondest, most exciting, most positive and most mutually pleasing relationships of all. See comment to number 8.

So, are you convinced this isn't prostitution?

Here's why this bothers me. If you're a pretty girl and you "date" a guy because he has money, you're a legal sugar baby. If you're not pretty, or you don't use a website with a cute name, and you "date" a guy for a shorter time period (like an hour) for money, you're an illegal prostitute. If you're a man with money and you "financially take care of" a woman over a period of time, you're a sugar daddy. If you're a regular man and you give a woman money for a one hour date, you're a john.

Look, everyone has to earn a living. The women who sign up as sugar babies want to be professional girlfriends. That's fine. We all use the gifts that we're given. If our gift is brains, we become accountants, lawyers, engineers. If our gift is our body, we become "sugar babies". Should it really matter if we do it by the hour or by the month? I can legally sell my accounting skills by the hour. Why can't someone else sell "body skills" by the hour? If it's okay for a woman to be a professional sugar baby, let her do it by the hour if she'd like. It's all the same and it hurts no one. But what isn't right is to make it illegal to be a sugar baby for an hour, but legal to do it under the guise of a "more casual, mutually pleasing and mutually beneficial relationship." Let's not be hypocrites.

So, what do I think of "Sugardaddyforme.com"? I think it's a good service. It matches people who deserve to be together. If a woman only wants to date a man for his money, at least the man knows. If a man wants to pay a woman to be with him only because she's good looking, at least the woman knows. Everyone is being truthful. Oh, and sugardaddyforme.com doesn't discriminate. You can request a sugar daddy or a sugar mama. And a sugar baby can be male or female.

So there you have it. If all you have going for you is looks or money, if all you really want is someone with looks or money, sugardaddyforme.com is the site for you.